It all starts with self confidence. A lot of people fear judgement online and rejection if they are uncomfortable with the way they look. Of course, we all have our own insecurities, but for some, it's worse. The internet is used an escape for many people who struggle in real life due to school, work and sometimes family. We can all relate to this right? We go to twitter, Facebook or Instagram for a glimpse into another persons life. In the same way, when you go to school, you often compare yourself to others and imagine, "I wonder what its like to be like them". That's the same way a catfish thinks. The mind of a catfish is a mind which seeks acceptance, freedom and love. I have never met a person who has catfished, but I know many people who refuse to show me their real faces because they are so used to being hidden behind a screen. A catfish is not a person who seeks to hurt anyone (there are some maybe) but a person who most often looks for a person or people who will allow them to be THE REAL THEM BEHIND SOMEONE ELSE. I am not justifying a catfish's decision, I am simply analyzing them with my own opinion. I am sure they live with guilt, they carry a heavy burden that they fear will be exposed. From all the episodes of catfish I have watched, the one thing that never want to do is video call. This is a heavy sign that they are not who they say they are. Some people may argue to be shy or not have adequate resources to video call, but it's still a little "fishy".
This ties back to what we spoke on in class: we should strive to be the exact same personality/person in front of every person we know regardless of the situation. I believe that this is impossible for many reasons. One being that we cannot fully be ourselves without the already set standard on how you should act when you're in a certain place or situation. You are forced to alter your personality to fit your surroundings. For instance when you go to a day care, you all of a sudden become a child, you become nicer, you speak in a way that is fitting to speak to a kid. Another example, when you go to church, you have absolutely no choice but to act in a way which will not deem you as a bad person or a non believer. Ultimately, how can we be the same person online just as we are in person? The world may never know.
2 comments:
I understand needing to boost your self confidence sometimes, but I don't understand why catfishing does that for some people. When someone is catfishing and get complimented, the people giving the compliments aren't complimenting them; the nice things people are saying are directed at who they're pretending to be. That would make me feel worse about myself rather than better.
I really like your comment because you seem to express Angela's point of view. This movie is mostly from Nev's point of view therefore we can relate and connect with him more. But I am pretty sure that everyone who is a human being has once felt depressed, seeking for acceptance and comfort and love. Social media is a way in which we can escape the pressure of our lives and Angela is a good example. Had the movie filmed more of Angela's side like how she takes care of her sons and daughters, we would have felt more sympathized.
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