Learning to Let Go

  Marsha was thrown into a situation where her whole world was shook with despair and uncertainty. When Ash died she was in disbelief when law enforcement showed up because she was already worried and afraid that something had happened to him because he was out of contact and out of sight. So, once they showed up she was not even in a place where bad news would be accepted because she was in a moment of shock and slight hope that he would come home or at least reach out.
      Once it set in that he was really gone she attempted to move on and tried to heal but a friend stepped in and thought that she was helping but in actuality she was hurting Marsha because she opened a door that Marsha was not ready to let go. She invested time and emotions into this life like software just to speak to him, touch him, and have a piece of him constant in her life. At moments, it would seem that she felt that this could be a form of replacement until things got serious and the ash replacement was not exactly how she felt ash should be. So that's when by watching you would think she was finally letting go but she still was not ready.
      She ended up keeping the replacement and has involved her daughter in this situation. Now this is where we see that Marsha will probably not let go because now she has gotten comfortable in a way with this replacement being in her life. So after years of being near a second ash, and living as if ash has never left has become a hindrance to her as well as her daughter. Simply because the daughter looks forward to see him on weekends and every chance she can. Although, her daughter only sees him on weekends she has grown a bond with him and it would hurt for her to lose him. But most importantly it will hurt Marsha to lose Ash all over again. And considering she never dealt with his lose in the first place, losing him by her own choice is a decision she may not be able to make.
     I'm sure Marsha never intended for this to go as long as it did. But if you can picture yourself in her shoes, where you had lost someone near and dear to your heart and you had the opportunity to see them, touch them, or talk to them one last time. Imagine you were given this opportunity, would you turn it down? And if you didn't turn it down would you ever let go? In most cases, no one would let go because they do not have to. They do not have to be ready to let go. So you do not have to learn or cope with them no longer being there.